How many times have I refused asking for help just because I did not want to bother people with my trivial problems? How many times have I turned down help just when I really needed it? Needless to say, I have become too independent without me knowing it. Not until I became dependent on someone that I realized just how important it is to have a friend, a lover, or family to watch your back every time you make mistakes or you encounter difficulties in life. I knew then that to admit that you are weak doesn't mean you're weak...it only means that you acknowledge your own imperfection.
And as I write this, I recall one of my best girl friends who's undergoing difficulties with her personal life. (Yes, it may seem that you never learn from past mistakes but it's there to make you sure that you do the next time a similar problem appears in your life..) Another close friend is undergoing marital problems, a slightly deeper one than the former friend I mentioned. She already lost 15 lbs. just thinking about it. Not a really good way to lose weight though. Anyway, we all decided to meet up one of these days just to talk.
For me, it is important for a woman to have a close set of girl friends to run to each time she is faced with trials or bumps on her road. Much like the celebrated Sex and the City women who seem to have been the shock absorber of each other. Certainly, it's way better than to pay an expensive psychiatrist who treats your problem scientifically rather than to empathize with you.
So I guess to all my girl friends, here's a little note: it's ok to ask for help expecially when you know that what you need is a woman's ear.
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