ON COMMITMENT

"The most important, most critical component in successful loving is commitment. Not love."

--part of an essay sent by my bestfriend emogurl..


I remember my favorite teacher in college, Fr. Dacanay, telling us to "think twice before jumping into a commitment because it takes lots of guts to work to it out.." Two years and a couple of months later, I saw myself in the same predicament, this time, with my first, real relationship.

I feel like I'm back in school, only this time, learning the art of commitment. People close to me know just how much of a hard headed, no nonsense "bitch" I can be. I was not one to show buckets of tears, or better yet give my wholeself completely. Pride is the only word I can attribute to it. Yet, in the course of this relationship that I am in, I gave in. I am trying to lose all pride and selfishness for him because he willingly gave up his own.

I guess you could say I finally met my match but the hard part isn't over. Keeping that love alive is the real challenge. Sometimes I see old couples in the movie house holding hands and still looking very much in love. And I say to myself, "I want that kind of relationship, one that undoubtedly stands the test of time, but how?"

Then, I saw myself again sitting in one of Fr. Dacanay's lectures on commitment. I start to smile because I know now the secret of lasting relationships. And boy, it does take lots of guts to work out differences and conflicts, money matters and trivial things, but these are nothing when I know that at the end of the day, I have someone to go home to.



this one's for lee...I owe you, big time.